From Fear to Faith: Our Infertility Journey

The Infertility Epidemic

Infertility has reached alarming levels. The numbers have shifted from 1 in every 8 women in past decades to 1 in every 5 women today. The CDC reports approximately 2.4 million couples within childbearing years are infertile.

What is infertility? It's defined as actively trying to conceive for a full year without success.

And it's not just a woman's issue. Men can be infertile too, but they often resist getting checked, leaving a major gap in the data.

From Fear to Faith: A Journey Through Infertility

Roa and Taurus share their deeply personal testimony of navigating infertility, PCOS, and cultural pressure as a married couple.

This is a story about surrendering to God's timing, standing in unity, and watching the impossible become possible.

Why Are So Many Couples Struggling?

• Chronic disease epidemic: Diabetes, high blood pressure, heart disease, and kidney disease are hitting people younger and younger
• Sedentary lifestyles: We sit all day in front of screens, in air conditioning, far less active than previous generations
• Highly processed foods: Chemicals, preservatives, and toxins in our food supply are poisoning our bodies
• Delayed childbearing: Modern culture pushes women to wait until 35 and beyond
• Medical conditions: PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome), endometriosis, fibroids, hormonal imbalances, and even certain STDs like chlamydia

The Diagnosis

In 2012, while engaged, Roa went to get checked out. She had been dealing with irregular cycles, acne, weight gain, and other hormonal issues. The diagnosis came back: PCOS.

Doctors prescribed birth control pills, but she wasn't sexually active at the time. There was hesitation. Should she take them?

The doctors didn't offer much information. It wasn't until later that she learned PCOS can originate from conditions in the womb itself. At the time, she was going months without a period. Some years she only had one or two cycles the entire year.

A Simple Prayer That Changed Everything

In 2013, they got married at age 24. They made a decision together: they wanted to enjoy married life for 3 to 4 years before having children. No rush. Time to travel, grow together, and be free.

So they sat on their bed, placed their hands on her stomach, and prayed a simple prayer:

"Lord, we think we'd like to wait 3 to 4 years. If that's cool with you, please hold off on sending kids. But if there's a reason they need to come now, not our will but your will be done."

No birth control pills. No contraceptives. They made God their family plan.

The Weight of Waiting

Taurus was at peace. Completely unbothered. Somewhere deep in his soul, he just knew they were going to have kids.

But Roa? As year three turned into year four, fear crept in. The PCOS diagnosis. The doctor's warnings. The cultural pressure.

"You graduate from college: when are you getting married? You get married: when's the baby coming? You get the baby: when's the next one? You literally cannot please people."

She went to multiple doctors searching for answers. Each one said roughly the same thing. The last doctor they visited was blunt, rude, and insensitive:

"You have cysts on your womb. You have to take birth control pills. Don't you want kids? Then take the pills."

The Turning Point

The doctor prescribed pills. Taurus said: "Don't even pick them up. Don't spend a dollar on it. We don't need it."

But Roa, wavering in faith, went and got them anyway. She came home and told him. He lovingly talked her out of it.

"Babe, we don't need this. Let's trust God. Let's trash it."

She threw the pills away.

Less than two months later, she found out she was pregnant.

If she had started taking those pills, it never would have happened. The doctor who swore they needed medical intervention was wrong. God shifted the entire situation through simple trust.

God's Perfect Timing

When she finally got to the doctor, she was already seven weeks along. She couldn't even tell the office when her last cycle was because her periods had always been so irregular.

And the timing? Almost exactly four years from when they prayed that prayer.

• Married: July 2013
• Found out pregnant: June 2016
• Baby born: 2017
• Married at 24, first child at 28

God honored their request to the year. Then after their first child, it was six more years before conceiving again. Same irregular body. Same PCOS. All evidence that this was entirely God's doing.

Then suddenly: two babies, 11 months apart. Only God can orchestrate something like that.

Pause Before You Panic

A key lesson from this journey: don't let fear drive your decisions.

"I love doctors and I thank God for doctors. But I always slow-walk whatever they tell me, especially when they say I have to do something right now."

The Bible tells us to be anxious for nothing, but in everything with prayer and supplication, lay your requests before God. And the God of peace will guard your heart.

Getting professional advice is valid and important. But filter everything through the Word of God and the Holy Spirit. Take the advice back to God and ask: "This is what man says. What do you say?"

Sometimes it's good to just pause, breathe, pray, and then make your decision.

The Ebenezer Moment

In 1 Samuel 7, after God delivered Israel from the Philistines, Samuel set up a stone and named it Ebenezer, saying: "Thus far the Lord has helped us."

That stone was a stake in the ground. A memorial. A point in time to look back and say: God did it then, and He'll do it again.

Their infertility testimony became their Ebenezer. A moment they can always return to and remember God's faithfulness. Because the next time a challenge comes, they can point back to that miracle and say: same God, yesterday, today, and forever.

Be Fruitful and Multiply

From the very beginning, God gave a command and a blessing:

"God blessed them and said to them, be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it."

If you yearn for children, nothing is wrong with you. That desire is natural. It's good. It's obedient to the Word of God.

The enemy may come with doubt, fear, and anxiety based on your age, your diagnosis, or your circumstances. Do not waver in your faith. Put your hope in God and trust Him.

He Is the Author and Finisher

He is the author and the finisher of our faith. He's writing your story. He's orchestrating how things will unfold based on your unique family, your unique calling, and your unique purpose.

Everyone's journey looks different:

• Some wait years and then have twins or triplets
• Some go from no children to back-to-back blessings
• Some are called to adopt
• Some are called to birth something other than a physical child: a business, a community, a ministry

Like Abraham, who waited until he was 100 years old for his promised son, God's timing is not our timing. But His purposes are always greater than our plans.

"You have to be willing to want what God wants more than the thing you want the most."

Protect Your Marriage in the Waiting

Infertility can breed resentment, anger, and hostility between partners if you're not careful. The spouse with the medical issue already carries immense weight, feeling like they're the problem.

If you're the other spouse, be patient, gracious, and loving. Don't exacerbate the burden.

• Expose hidden feelings to your partner instead of letting them fester
• Receive honestly without judgment or turning it into a fight
• Move through it together because God has purpose in the journey

Roa shared how much rest it gave her spirit knowing Taurus never saw her as broken. His peace and confidence in God brought healing even in the hardest moments.

"To know that your partner is in the boat with you is a big deal. First and foremost God, but knowing your partner is in it with you is huge."

Don't Covet Your Neighbor's Blessing

The enemy uses comparison to steal your peace.

"I see them with kids. They have five, I want five. They have two, I want mine."

But you don't understand what your purpose is yet. You don't know who God is going to send through you.

God wanted Abraham's child more than Abraham did, because from that one child came an entire nation. God's people. A lineage that leads to Jesus Himself.

Even Mary simply said: "I am your servant. Be it unto me as you have spoken."

We are stewards, not owners. Whether God gives a physical child, a business, a community, or a calling, we have to steward it. And we have to steward the waiting season just as faithfully.

Scriptures for the Waiting Season

If you find yourself in this season, let these words anchor your soul:

Micah 7:7 - "As for me, I will look to the Lord. I will wait for the God of my salvation. My God will hear me."

Psalms 27:14 - "Wait patiently for the Lord. Be strong and courageous. Wait patiently for the Lord."

Psalms 37:7 - "Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for Him."

Psalms 40:1 - "I waited patiently for the Lord. He inclined to me. He heard my cry."

Isaiah 40:31 - "Those who wait upon the Lord will renew their strength. They will mount up on wings like eagles. They will run and not grow weary."

Stand Together. Trust God. Steward the Season.

Whatever season you're in, join together as a team. Be united. Stand on the Word of God and rest in it.

Don't let the enemy plant seeds of blame or discord. No matter who carries the physical struggle, it's not a defect. God allows certain situations for His glory and in His timing.

We overcome the enemy by the blood of the Lamb and the words of our testimony. Journal what God does. Write it down. Remember it. No matter how small it seems, don't take it for granted.

"If He brought us through this, He can bring us through whatever else is coming."

Pray. Believe. Stand firm. Wait on the Lord. He will make a way where there seems to be no way.